While divorce isn’t the right solution for every unhappy marriage, it is important to recognize the signs of a failing marriage so that you can either fix it or end it amicably.
This blog post will discuss some common signs that your marriage might be headed towards divorce.
Questioning your Relationship
Doubts start to creep in after years of an unhappy marriage. “Nagging questions” persist during this emotional time. Maybe you’re wondering, should I get a divorce?
Stuck in a Rut
It is common for couples contemplating divorce to feel stuck and uncertain about the relationship’s future, especially if their trust has been broken due to infidelity.
This can be a turning point for couples, but it doesn’t diminish their love for each other.
However, sometimes love alone cannot enable a healthy progression in the relationship. Trust issues and resentment can weigh a marriage down. This usually leads to the last resort: seeking help from an outside party.
Before pursuing a divorce, couples want closure after trying everything they can to repair their relationship.
Disrespectful Behaviour
In any marriage, respect is essential. When one partner shows a lack of respect towards the other, it is a sign of a serious communication breakdown. Disrespectful behaviour can include anything from name-calling to lying or infidelity. It can quickly cause the dissolution of a marriage.
Constant and Unresolved Fighting
One of the most significant signs that your marriage is headed towards divorce is constant fighting that does not lead to a resolution.
It’s normal to argue in a marriage, but when arguments turn into verbal attacks or screaming matches, and you can’t come to a solution that satisfies both partners, it might be time to consider marriage counselling.
Contempt
Statements that are based on moral superiority are indicative of contempt. Some examples of contempt are eye-rolling, cynicism, sneering, mocking, and hostile humour.
Sometimes, contempt can lead to divorce, so it should be avoided.
An example of contempt would be: “You’re tired? I have been working all day and attending meetings continuously. I always come home to find you sleeping. Is it possible for you to be any lazier?”
Read more: Contempt – A Major Predictor of Divorce
Stonewalling
Also known as emotional withdrawal, it can be harmful behaviour in a marriage. It happens when one partner actively disengages from communication with the other, shutting down any possibility of resolving conflicts or even having a conversation.
This behaviour can lead to feelings of isolation, frustration, and resentment from both partners. If you are stonewalled, addressing the issue and finding healthy ways to communicate is important.
Indecision
Each person’s situation is different, and deciding to divorce can be challenging. It’s not uncommon for people to go back and forth on their decision to follow through with a divorce.
It can be a long and trying process. Some people worry about unknowns, others worry about being alone, others worry about financial implications, and some worry about their kids.
As a result, it may take years before a couple decides it’s time to end their relationship.
Read more: Managing Conflict in Your Divorce
How GJC Law Can Help
Our divorce lawyers can review any prenuptial or postnuptial agreements that may be in place and help you understand the implications of any property division or spousal/child support involved in your divorce proceedings.
We can also guide you through the legal process of filing for divorce and ensure that your rights and interests are protected.
We’re here for you
At your initial consultation, our divorce lawyers will help you explore whether a Collaborative approach is the best option.
We aim to ensure that your divorce case goes smoothly and as efficiently as possible.
