Infidelity, an issue as old as time, remains a sensitive and pertinent topic in modern society. Though commonly associated with the act of a spouse being unfaithful, the subject runs deeper, with diverse causes and profound effects on all parties involved.
This article seeks to unpack the multifaceted nature of infidelity, with a specific lens on its implications within Singapore’s legal context.
Definition of Infidelity
Infidelity refers to the act of being unfaithful to a spouse or committed partner, violating the trust or the mutually agreed-upon norms of a committed relationship. While most people equate infidelity with sexual acts, it can also encompass emotional bonds formed without the partner’s knowledge or consent.
The Types of Infidelity
Physical Infidelity
: Engaging in sexual acts with someone outside the committed relationship.
Emotional Infidelity
: Forming deep emotional bonds with someone other than the partner, which can sometimes rival or surpass the intimacy of the primary relationship.
Digital Infidelity
: Engaging in online affairs, flirtatious messaging, or maintaining dating profiles, often without physical contact.
Financial Infidelity
: Keeping financial secrets, like hidden debts or investments, from the partner.
Read more: How Infidelity & Adultery Affects Marriages
Causes of Infidelity
Dissatisfaction in Current Relationship
: Feeling unfulfilled or unhappy can drive individuals to seek solace or excitement outside their primary relationship.
Desire for External Validation
: Some might cheat to validate their attractiveness or desirability.
Opportunity and Temptation
: Being in situations where infidelity becomes easy or accessible.
Personal History
: Past traumas or a history of infidelity in one’s family can sometimes predispose individuals to cheat.
Cultural Factors
: In some cultures, having multiple partners might be seen as a status symbol or even normalized.
Read more: Lack of Commitment: The Leading Cause for Divorce
The Emotional Landscape of the Cheater
For the individual who commits infidelity, the emotional repercussions can be vast and complex. Often, they grapple with overpowering feelings of guilt, anxiety, and in some cases, self-loathing.
These negative emotions stem not only from the act itself but from the acknowledgment of betraying a loved one’s trust. The consequences aren’t confined to their internal world. Externally, they risk the potential loss of their family structure, the distancing or outright condemnation from friends, and a tarnishing of their reputation.
This can be further compounded by increased conflict in personal relationships, as trust erodes and arguments ensue.
The Turmoil of the Cheated
For the partner on the receiving end of infidelity, the emotional storm is no less tumultuous. Paramount among their reactions is a profound feeling of betrayal.
This heartbreak is often paired with a loss of trust, not just in the partner, but sometimes extending to others, tainting future interactions with skepticism. Their self-esteem might take a significant hit, leading them to question their self-worth and what they could have potentially “lacked” to lead their partner astray.
The emotional trauma can be debilitating, requiring time and sometimes professional help to heal. Additionally, there’s the tangible threat to their health; if the unfaithful partner had unsafe encounters, the cheated faces potential health risks, including the contraction of STDs. This adds a layer of physical vulnerability to their emotional pain.
Read more: Infidelity and Its Wake: Decisions After the Storm
Therapies Used to Treat Infidelity
Couples Therapy
: Provides a safe space for couples to discuss issues and find ways to rebuild trust.
Individual Therapy
: Helps the cheater understand their actions and the betrayed partner to process their emotions.
Sex Therapy
: Addresses underlying issues related to intimacy and sexual dissatisfaction.
Infidelity in Singapore Divorce Proceedings
In Singapore, infidelity can be used as grounds for a fault-based divorce under the term “adultery.” For the adultery to be considered a valid reason:
- The petitioner must prove that the spouse committed adultery.
- The petitioner must find it intolerable to live with the adulterous partner.
- The petitioner must file the claim within 6 months after discovering the adultery.
In Singapore, to prove adultery, the petitioner must show, on a balance of probabilities, that the spouse had voluntary sexual intercourse with a 3rd party. It is therefore a high threshold to cross in order to succeed with a claim of adultery. At times, it may be necessary to engage the services of a private investigator to get evidence of the adultery.
While it may be challenging to obtain direct evidentiary proof of sexual intercourse, the Court may take into account circumstantial evidence, such as photographs or videos of the spouse and the 3rd party entering a hotel room for example. Other forms of circumstantial proof may also include evidence of messages / emails / communications / hotel bookings etc.
In the event there is insufficient evidence for adultery, there is an alternative ground i.e. “unreasonable behaviour” which may be the next best option. This concept is generally referred to having “improper association” with another party.
By relying on the ground of unreasonable behaviour, the petitioner would only need to prove that the spouse had behaved in a way that the petitioner cannot reasonably be expected to live with the spouse any longer. There is no need to prove adultery i.e. sexual intercourse.
How GJC Law can Assist
In the intricate maze of divorce proceedings, particularly when adulterous relationships or improper associations come into play, having a knowledgeable and empathetic legal team becomes invaluable. This is where GJC Law shines in its capacity to provide assistance and representation.
Thorough Case Evaluation
: GJC Law ensures an in-depth understanding of each case’s nuances. By evaluating the particulars of the adultery or improper association claims, we can provide a clear roadmap for the client on potential outcomes and strategies.
Evidence Compilation and Presentation
: Proving adultery or improper association is not straightforward. It requires a precise and strategic compilation of evidence, from text messages to witness testimonies. GJC Law’s meticulous approach ensures that all relevant evidence is gathered, organized, and presented in the most compelling manner.
Guidance on Rights and Options
: Clients are educated about their rights in cases of adultery and improper association. This includes understanding how such claims can influence decisions related to child custody, alimony, and asset division.
Expert Negotiation
: Beyond the courtroom, our divorce lawyers are adept at negotiating terms and settlements, aiming to achieve the best possible outcomes for our clients. This can be particularly useful in contentious divorce situations where emotions run high.
Up-to-Date Knowledge on Legal Precedents
: Laws and court decisions evolve. GJC Law remains abreast of the latest legal developments and rulings related to adultery and improper association. This ensures clients receive advice and representation based on the most recent and relevant legal frameworks.
Conclusion:
While infidelity is a complex and deeply personal issue, understanding its nuances is critical for healing and prevention. Whether navigating personal feelings of betrayal or wading through the legalities in a place like Singapore, being informed is the first step towards resolution.
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